Importance of Saying No

When you think about ways to better your life most people think adding habits, routines, etc. is the only way to do it. Although these things are also very important – sometimes removing things is just as important. When you remove busy nonproductive habits and activities it will allow your time to free to add the positive uplifting things. Removing starts with learning to say NO and understanding how important it is to your success. Here are some positive take aways from saying no more to others and yes more to yourself.

More time for yourself

When you say no to people, you have more time for you. Mental health and self appreciation are two of the most important things towards being happy. Skipping the birthday party or get together or the work event will add extra slots in your already busy week. You can join a workout class, read more, start baking, spend an extra hour with your kids or do whatever makes you happy. When you create space in your schedule you can fill it with something that will fill your cup.

Do you feel refreshed?

Does the activity or thing you are doing leave you refreshed? Do you feel better mentally and physically after attending an event or party? If the answer is no then your answer should be no. A lot of times we commit to doing things because we feel obligated or we are questioned for the no. Stop feeling bad about this. Just say no and do what makes you happy.

Be Selfish

There is a super negative connotation with being selfish. It is actually important to be selfish at times. Especially when it comes to your time – this is something you should always be selfish about. Before making a decision to do something think to yourself – “Is this something that is positively impacting my family and me and helping us reach our goals”. If the answer is no then you know what your answer should be. I want to add that going on date nights, doing things with family, and going to the occasional party are 100% still okay. Maybe your goals are to be more social or spend more time with friends or take care of your relationship. Everyone’s goals are different so this looks different for each person.

Although this topic seems super simple and almost comical, you would be surprised how many people say yes and then regret it or have to find an excuse to not do something they have committed to. Save yourself the time and headache and just say no. Don’t be afraid to put yourself and your family first- they are the ones that matter. Choose yourself.

xoxo, jess